Broken hearts run rampant in our fantastically flawed world. Human beings are fraught with poor decision making skills and we hurt one another constantly, whether intentionally or otherwise. Worse yet, life throws us curve balls of its own, things having nothing to do with the callousness of humanity.
Hearts break every day to different extents. (Mine gets a tiny tear every time I look at cheese. Lactose intolerance led me to the worst breakup of my life. I still love you, Dairy. It hurts me deeply that we can no longer be together).
Those are just the daily breaks. The red nail polish spill- on your FAVORITE skirt, your favorite TV show- SPOILED, your favorite meal- BURNT. You know, all that jazz. They hurt but it’s a pretty quick rebound.
But how do you rebound from real heartbreak? How do you heal once the true damage has been done?
What do you do when your grandfather passes away? What do you do when your mother tells you that she has Cancer? What do you do when the man you thought you’d marry leaves you?
I won’t pretend to know the answers to these questions. I don’t have the answers.
There is no one definitive answer.
Open yourself up to your friends and family. Lean on them, as scary as that may be. They will offer advice but remember that your experience is unique to you. If you like the advice, take it. If not, don’t.
Don’t be ashamed to heal in your own time; in your own way.
Personally, I rely on music to help…
It’s not much but I hope that perhaps it will help you in times of need, as it has helped me. Remember that you have people who love you. Let them love you. Let them help you.
Best wishes to you.